Masks

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Mask: A cover or partial cover for the face, used for a disguise, a false face, a cover up. 

There are appropriate times for wearing a mask. At a masquerade party you can see the different masks that people arrive in. You might be able to identify who’s behind the mask if you are familiar with the exposed features of their face. Perhaps you can recognize an individual by their lips, nose or hair. Children as well as adults are known for wearing masks on the day of Halloween. Those are usually the appropriate times for wearing a mask.

There are masks that are not physical masks. They are the ones some people wear in order to disguise themselves, to cover their flaws, to re-invent themselves or to pretend that they are someone else.

Masked persons have held others hostage to the pain in their life. They cover up emotionally by giving others the impression that they are loving, caring and kind; meanwhile they are manipulative with evil intentions along with a host of other issues and problems. If anyone dare confront them on their behavior, they whip out another mask to cover the one they’re wearing.

Some people have learned to wear masks from the time of their childhood. If they have had a bad childhood or have experienced trauma, they may, for self preservation, wear a mask.

Once you get into the habit of wearing a mask, it is hard to take it off. You will have a difficult time confronting the real you!

Physical masks were meant to be removed. They are not to be permanently worn. Physical masks prevent you from seeing clearly. They block peripheral view. Physical masks can also be cumbersome and stifling. Emotional masks are similar in that they prevent individuals from facing the truth about themselves.

Liars wear masks! Liars don’t like themselves and as a result, they lie to cover or conceal the things they dislike or feel insecure about. They lie to mask the truth about their true character.

The problem with emotional masks is this; ‘People are transparent’! Really they are! Eventually everyone you deal with or have dealt with, will see you for who you really are! No mask of any size will hide that truth. Just give it some time.

Some of us wear more than one mask. We interchange them regularly; depending  on who we are trying to impress at the time.

Do you wear a mask? Have you ever tried to remove it? It is more fashionable and healthy to be yourself! We all have flaws and foibles. We all have weaknesses and failings. We all have feet of clay. The beauty is that we can always change the things that need to be changed in our lives. We have control over that. If you are trapped in past experiences that have wounded you, make the decision to get free of those negative feelings and reactions and take off the mask!

Remember this! Masks will never leave the wearer any happier. The longer you wear the mask the more miserable you’ll become.

Stay Tune…

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Who Do You Attract?

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Who Do You Attract

The world is made up of all kinds of people with various personalities and behaviors. It’s been expressed by some that they are tired of ending up in the wrong relationships; be it  female to female relationships or with the opposite sex.

Are certain types of people attracted to us or are we attracting certain types of people? I have come to the conclusion that each of us, initially, attract certain types of people based on these two things:

1.Personality

2. The way that we interact with others.

It actually only takes 10-15 minutes to assess a person’s personality type, provided you are paying attention. Humans are social by nature. Some of us are talkers, some are more contemplative while others are eerily quiet.

If you find that you are attracting people who are phony and pretentious, insecure or abusive, you might want to examine your own tendencies to see whether or not you are participating in the same behavior. If so, you will lean more towards attracting these types of people.

I have also observed that well adjusted, secure, and positive persons generally have friendships that are characteristic of the same qualities. From this I have gathered that they are attracting people who may be different in personality, but they share the same attitude and approach to life.

It is far more easy to list the things that have not worked well for us in relationships with others than it is to sit in judgement of ourselves. Taking a closer look to see where the problem may lie, will be a challenge. What we are giving off to others speaks to our personality and character.

If we have the courage to check ourselves out, we may find that particular bait that we keep dangling out there in the sea of life. We may possibly see why we have the types of relationships we’ve ended up with.

Superficial people have the tendency to attract other superficial people because they are not interested in investing in others. There’s a lack of commitment that keeps them at arms distance.

There may also be those rare occasions where certain people gravitate towards you for selfish reasons. They see something they are attracted to that could benefit them if they attach themselves to you. You will have to decide whether or not you want to be friends with them.

So…Who Do You Attract? Who’s in your friendship circle? Who’s in your inner circle? What type of people almost never end up as your friends?

We’re always communicating with others, via our personality, our words or our behavior. We’re also attracting certain types of people. It’s something to think about!

Stay Tuned…

To Be Called ‘Girlfriend’ Is A Privilege By Patricia Stuart

http://www.amazon.com/Called-Girlfriend-Privilege-Achieving-Friendships-ebook/dp/B00HJBNCA8/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1428338288&sr=1-1&keywords=To+Be+Called+Girlfriend+Is+A+Privilege

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To Be Called ‘Girlfriend’ Is A Privilege!

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Cover Art by Internationally Acclaimed Artist, Jonathan Green http://www.jonathangreenstudios.com

I can remember going to the amusement park and riding the Cyclone over and over again, knowing that when it started to slowly coast uphill, I was going to scream my head off as it dropped into a fast and winding curve; leaving my heart in my mouth!

Human nature can produce the same kind of feeling, depending on who you’re dealing with, unfortunately. It can sometimes feel as if you are on an obstacle course. Look out for this! Watch out for that! Sometimes people can be so mixed up and screwed up in their  thinking that they put others through unnecessary stuff!

It’s never easy handling your own insecurities and fears, but it’s never advisable to let them loose on others! Face up to whatever the problem is and hash it out within yourself.

When dealing with someone ends up leaving you with huge question marks, believe me, there’s something legitimate to wonder about. High maintenance is what I call it, because that’s exactly what it will require in order to deal with them.

I decided long ago that I was ‘Taking No Prisoners’! I left the ball and chains behind. Anything or anyone who presented stress, strife, confusion or the inability to act right, was not invited along for the journey.

Even the Holy Bible says, “Better to be in the wilderness (alone) than to tolerate a contentious and angry female (Proverbs 21:19)”! Why do we continue to take one another on roller coaster rides? Why won’t we call an ace an ace and a spade a spade? If we have a legitimate leg to stand on, we shouldn’t have any difficulty being straight with each other. Some of us are so out of touch with ourselves that we continue to play games while trying to hide what is in plain sight.

Well…at the end of the day, I can only work on me. I am responsible for being the best possible example I can be to  all my ‘Sisters’ and ‘Sistah’ friends!

Stay Tune…

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http://www.amazon.com/Called-Girlfriend-Privilege-Achieving-Friendships-ebook/dp/B00HJBNCA8/ref=sr_1_5?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1403549183&sr=1-5&keywords=Patricia+Stuart 

Artist:  Jonathan Green http://www.jonathangreenstudios.com

 

Patricia Stuart http://patriciastuartnspires.com